Evoking recognition that bravado never satisfies need

Angus Cunningham — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 03:29:43 GMT

Whgusc@at is needed from third parties is always help in discovery the actual needs of both parties to a conflict. In this case the needs appear to me to be, on the Palestinians' side, attention and honesty from Israeli politicians they have had precious little cause to trust, and on the Israeli's side, to be left alone to address their religious settlers' religious sense of entitlement.

The Palestinians's plight seems to be obvious and one might well ask how any individual Palestinian can get the honest attention of Israeli authorities and consequently the most rational assumption I can make so far is that the Palestinian rocketeering action is one outcome of youthful despair. On the Israeli side, the pretentions of the religious bigots seem always to be ignored by the wealthy, who, feebly failing to call the bigotry of their fellow citizens, would seem to me to have the option to make available the means to settle their immigrant citizens housing needs without the latter treading persistently and shamefully on the toes of Palestinians.

As to creativity in helping the discovery of needs occur, would you guys consider reading, and likely thereafter recommending, Marshall Rosenberg's "Nonviolent Communications: A Language of Life"?

This book recommends asking questions of a kind that allow of admission of needs somehow obscure to the angry parties.

I myself, in my coaching mediation practice, find asking, as grntly as possible questions that pretenders cannot answer authentically without admitting anxiety has slowly a positive, that is to say, vitalizing effect amongst people who oscillate in and out of conscious connection with their emotions. I believe this is because an emotion is always a clue to a need (i.e. what will bring about equanimity in increasing steps), whereas a feeling is often deeply and bravadoically acculturated to obscure needs.

I appreciate the Jerusalem Post's recognition that violence begets violence, and ask that its editors recognize that most ancient languages contain metaphors that stimulate emotional predecessors to physical violence.

Angus Cunningham, Authentix Coaches www.authentixcoaches.com

RE: Evoking recognition that bravado never satisfies need

circusenvy1 — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 03:55:06 GMT

Right on Angus! It is impossible to solve ANY problem unless ALL parties are able to step from their concious feelings that drive their emotions and "walk a mile" in the others shoes to see their side...Then they can make a reality based decision on the best way to handle the matter....You Scottish?