http://yedda.com/questions/Help_depressed_psychology_6270318341780/?src=rss:qb:qbsPlease Help I am depressed.en-ushttp://static1.yeddacdn.com/images/Logo132X46_rmt9c1d22d.jpghttp://yedda.com/questions/Help_depressed_psychology_6270318341780/?src=rss:qb:qbsPlease Help I am depressed.http://yedda.com/questions/Help_depressed_psychology_6270318341780/?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>Sir/Madam, I am 30 yr. old male single employed in Govt. Sector in Mumbai, India and in deep distress. I have endogenous depression disorder and am on medication from a private psychiatrist and haven't disclosed my mental health status to my office fearing that they might terminate my service. I have had an excellent academic record 90% in std. X, 70% in Graduation and also stood first in the competitive exam held for recruitment. I was doing PG when I got this job offer and joined here due to parental pressure. My qualification is in science field and job is that of an engineer thats why many people at work say that I am inadequately qualified for my job. This thought is haunting me for the past six yrs. I am unable to upgrade my qualification due to anxiety, lack of concentration. I blame my parents for forcing me to do this job and say that I would have found a better job had I completed my PG. A job where atleast no one would say that I am inadequately qualified. On 19-04-09 I looked at my schoolmates profiles on a social networking site. Seeing that they all are very well educated and well placed as compared to myself I became even more depressed and said to myself that I will never again go to work.I remained absent on job for four weeks. But I gave a medical cert. for headache and fever. But I was prohibited to join work saying that and I quote " From the medical certificate given by you it seems that you are unfit for Govt. service for indefinite period. Your illness seems to be a serious one. You should submit proof of medicines purchased and prescriptions and certificate from medical board." I am unable to understand how come a person who submits Med. Cert. for headache and fever be declared unfit for Govt. service. I haven't told them about Depression what will they do if I tell them about it? Isn't this injustice? When I had joined my service I had a minor scuffle with one of my senior. It was he who started it. Now that person is at executive level hence he is harassing me indirectly. Also once one of my juniors had insulted me. I was depressed and left the office immediately saying that I would commit suicide and the blame would come on the office. Should I disclose my Psychiatric illness to my office? Please Please Help me I am feeling depressed due to this.</p>nik4jdnik4jd30questionFri, 29 May 2009 03:51:00 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/Help_depressed_psychology_6270318341780/?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/Help_depressed_psychology_6270318341780/Sorry_depression_think_lived_worked_504140273108897?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>Sorry for your depression. I think if i lived where you do and worked for the government i'd be depressed too. Is there something you would enjoy doing. If so, that's where you should be looking for work. Your parents aren't you and making them happy is ruining your health. I blame my parents for a lot of wrongs in my life too. And because of there demands on what <strong>my life</strong> goals should have been many many years ago I never followed my own dreams. Years later they are dead and I am suffering. You are still young! Do what YOU want in your life and happiness will follow. Good luck and God Bless You </p>CynthyCynthy50answer3.0Fri, 29 May 2009 04:55:25 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/Help_depressed_psychology_6270318341780/Sorry_depression_think_lived_worked_504140273108897?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/Help_depressed_psychology_6270318341780/ok_psychiatrist_need_one_certainly_862717745143575?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>It is ok to see a psychiatrist if you need one. And you certainly need one. But you never have to tell your job about it. It should be between you, your family and your doctor. It sounds like you have very low self-esteem of yourself. If you don't like what you are doing, why not try other things to make a living (even if it displeases your parents or pays less). I know in Asian culture, the children try to always please the parents, which is really tough when you are an adult and longing to be free and happy. Continue your treatment and discuss these issues with your psychiatrist. He might give you some insight into your condition. And make an effort to enjoy life, things and people. Don't be overly sensitive. It only hurts you. You have to reach out to others. It is not the other way around. Try it and you may find some happiness or at least satisfaction. Life is not easy for most people in the world in any country but many still try to find some joy in it.</p>giggibbgiggibb109answer3.0Fri, 29 May 2009 21:37:02 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/Help_depressed_psychology_6270318341780/ok_psychiatrist_need_one_certainly_862717745143575?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/Help_depressed_psychology_6270318341780/way_treated_believe_disclose_518418843187865?src=rss:qb:qbi<p><strong>If I were you, from the way they have treated you, I don't believe I would disclose any medical records to the office unless forced to do so. </strong></p> <p><strong> If you can function in the govt. job and do the job well, then you will be better off NOT telling more than you have to tell.  </strong></p> <p><strong>This is simply my own opinion.  I am not a professional.  </strong></p> <p><strong>Perhaps you should print out the post you have written and make an appointment with a professional in the field of psychology and see what advice they would give you. </strong></p> <p><strong> Best of everything.  Keep trying and as the old saying goes, "don't let the turkeys get you down."  NJoy</strong></p>NJoyNJoy71answer3.0Sun, 31 May 2009 14:59:44 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/Help_depressed_psychology_6270318341780/way_treated_believe_disclose_518418843187865?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/Help_depressed_psychology_6270318341780/experience_21yrs_nbsp_wanted_add_862597397153476?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>Hi... I'm not as experience as you(only 21yrs) but I just wanted to add something...</p> <p>In my opinion,you have become even more depressed when you have seen the qualifications of your collegues on that blog...</p> <p> I would like to tell "you should never compare yourself with other as it is an insult to yourself"....My tutor once told us this in class and I think it is true... By comparing yourself to those ahead of you, it is normal that you will feel small and unhappy... Be what you are and be happy with what you have....</p> <p>Until you do not convince yourself that you are as able as your collegue,you won't be able to move... I understand you perfectly but you have to do it...</p> <p>Another thing is that they may be better qualified but thats not all you know...Often in school,colleges and universities: Some teachers may be very qualified but they don't know</p> <p>1)how to pass on their knowledge...</p> <p>2)they do not have good manners /their way of talking is not good</p> <p>3)they are not models</p> <p>Well your qualification may be not as high but I'm sure you have other qualities...</p> <p>Just don't care about your them and focus on your work.</p> <p> </p> <p> </p> <p>Concerning your juniors never let them know about your depression....</p> <p>And if possible try to be punctual and don't be absent too many days as they will turns it against you saying that you are inefficient... Don't do anything that they might use against you...</p> <p>Hope I have been able to help you...</p> <p> </p>AlonaAlonafemale21answer3.0Fri, 05 Jun 2009 16:42:15 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/Help_depressed_psychology_6270318341780/experience_21yrs_nbsp_wanted_add_862597397153476?src=rss:qb:qbi