Marriage question

blahwifey — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 04:26:57 GMT

I have a low self esteem. I have had 5 step-dads. I dated my husband for 7 years before I married him. We have been married for almost 3 years. I let him do whatever he wants, because my mom used to control her husbands. Yet we are still unhappy. I only have 2 rules for him, dont hit me. dont cheat on me. he has been good on that but, I still feel like something is wrong. he doesn't touch or kiss me anymore. He'll kiss me by but its a peck. Should I be more agressive. If so how?

RE: Marriage question

DB Lady — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 04:40:42 GMT

I think that you need to talk to your husband and let him know that you want to have a loving and caring relationship. He does not read your mind so you should let him know.

Go to the parlor and have you hair fixed that will pleasantly surprise him. Take care of your physical appearance and be more attractive to him. I'm sure he sees a lot of attractive women at work. So when he gets home, he'll see an attractive wife and probably you don't have to give him a lot of hints.

RE: Marriage question

A Brown — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 05:25:51 GMT

Maybe you are in a rut. you are 22 years old, had dated for 7 years before you married him 3 years ago, so it seems you have spent your whole life dating this one man.Do you know for sure that you loved him, or was it something that you just felt comfortable with?

Whatever the relationships your mother had, probably had a reason for this relationship to start so early in your life and you didn't want to change because you thought you would turn out the way she did. To let him do whatever he wants, sounds more like you're still dating instead of in a marriage. Maybe there isn't any intimacy because he has known you so long and so well. if you want the love of your husband, then you will find some enticing ways to let him know.Quit worring about turning out like your mom did in her relationships and learn to be happy in yours,or find another kind of life.Life is too short to be unhappy so young. Good luck.

RE: Marriage question

fosjoh — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 05:28:50 GMT

Low self esteem is something that will come in and destroy you and your marriage. Try to work on improving your self esteem which will change your life, change the way your husband treast you and improve your marriage.

RE: Marriage question

Jay aka EET — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 06:45:52 GMT

fosjoh-

You link is inappropriate without first determining whether or not blahwifey is overweight.

Jay

RE: Marriage question

lawbug — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 19:47:01 GMT

Quit being your mother as it has rubed of on you to much. And her being married 6 times tells me she had a problem with men. I think if you look at your self closely your trying to repeat your mother and her life and the way she is. So let the past go move on with your life open up have fun and enjoy each outher. Greet him at the door with a hug and kiss ask how his day was. You are you but let your self go put on something sexy or even greet him in bed nude get his attention watch a sexy video with him play around with him this may be the change you need try it bet it works.

RE: Marriage question

Norman — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 03:23:36 GMT

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable—you can “make” love.