Pregnant and not in love

curioustoknow — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 01:55:15 GMT

I have been in a relationship with a guy that has never been physically attractive to me. He was there for me through my last breakup so I grew on him because he was so nice to me. I thought he was the nicest person. 3 years later, I am still with him and unfortunately he is not as nice as he use to be. Therefore, there is nothing to like about him...his appearance or his personality. Surprisingly, I got pregnant by him and found out Nov.1 of this year through a home pregnancy test. I am estimated to be around 7-8 weeks pregnant. I am so stressed out. I am not in love with him. I do not know what to do. He has always wanted to marry me. He said that he would take care of me. He even told me that I wouldn't have to work if I didn't want to. He is 46 and I am 30. My family does not like him for his age and his looks. I have not told anyone of my pregnancy yet. My family will wonder what I was thinking. I am not knowing what to do. Please give me some advice. Has anyone on here been in a similar sitation?

RE: Pregnant and not in love

harryvan — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 07:43:36 GMT

You have to come to a decision about two major issues: marrying this man and what about your pregnancy. I think you decided on the first that there can be no future for love and happiness with him. So now you will have to deal with the second and that is a decision that you will have to make by consulting a close friend or friends, close relatives, your parents and your local social services agency. The pregnancy was a mistake on your part but mistakes can always be corrected. I wish you good luck in your decision.