How Can I Regain His Interest in me again?

So Blue — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 15:22:05 GMT

Need Help! Hello All....It's really heartbreaking as far as what is happening to my affair with this wonderful married man , Greg( I am married as well)..The relationship was absolutely Fantastic in the beginning...He always complemented me (he told me he loved me on the 2nd date..!), and said I was the most beautiful, fantastic, loveable woman he's ever met..that he didn't want anybody else...He'd call me every single day (sometimes twice a day), and I felt happily pursued in the beginning with his daily offline messages on the computer..Eventually I started falling in love with him, and now I'm badly hooked on him, and he knows it. ( I actually even told him, I was badly hooked on him!).It's a long story..He started to pull away after I was constantly trying to reach him on his cell phone it being repeatedly off for about 2 or 3 days , and me not knowing..( I was on vacation with my husband somewhere, and before I left for vacation, Greg said he'd miss me, and before his cell phone broke, he called me when I was away with my husband, about 3 times, saying he missed the hell out of me..he sounded very sad and bothered on the phone..after I hung up with him, I started thinking he might have thought I didn't care about him, me being my neurotic self...) So then I started behaving desparately, constantly leaving him messages, asking him to call me, if he was mad at me., until I absolutely thought he broke up from me, by his never returning my calls!) I left him a tearful voice message assuming 100 percent he broke up from me).I messaged him on the computer when I got home., asking him to call me...emailed him to let me know if he wanted to end it with me..text messaged him...when I got home he left me an an email saying his cell phone broke! (being the reason I've hadn't heard from him the rest of the time on vacation) ..Then I left him an email saying I was Overjoyed to hear from him, and that I thought he left me., and that he's got me badly hooked on him forever....! After all that he started acting distant , and bothered on the phone, naturally...I even told him that my behavior of frantically trying to reach him could put him at risk in his volatile relationship with his wife, and then promised him I wouldn't behave that way again! Ever since then, he wasn't the caring, open, communicative man he always showed me he was, and started acting distant from me..Now he doesn't leave me any more messages on the computer..He calls me still everyday, but I don't feel he is interested in me much.. We were even supposed to get together when I got back from vacation that Monday in a hotel, but he told me he was sick., and couldn't..I even messaged him asking if he wanted to get together on a Friday or Saturday)...he never responded!, which is Very unlike the man I thought I knew)..Yesterday I spoke to him on his new cell phone , and he said maybe we could meet two weeks from now..of course I said ok...I started not mentioning anymore about him wanting to get together, and will continue not to).I also confronted him that I saw his name on a dating site we both were on, and he logged in to that site a week ago!..He denies he went in there,saying it was a computer error and denies he is looking for somebody else..He still says he loves me, but I don't believe or trust him anymore.. I even told him he could do anything he wants, like see other people,and to at least be honest and tell me he wants to....but he still lies, I feel, saying he's not looking for anybody else....He knows I don't believe him much now, though I want to.. and that I'm not acting as happy as before, though I'm trying hard to still be lighthearted as I used to be with him., trying to hide my deep hurt, and disappointment...it's just that now his love is not reciprocated, I feel)..I know, all these desparate actions of mine totally turned him off, and I feel like the relationship is falling apart now..how can it not, after all the mistakes I made pursuing him ! So I ask you anyone here, what action shall I take? Is it possible at all ever to regain his interest in only me, like he used to? Please help! And thank you for taking the time to read this long message..I do (desparately!) hope to hear your wise suggestions...Thank you! Rosanna

RE: How Can I Regain His Interest in me again?

Skitch — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 17:28:44 GMT

Let me get this straight ~ You want us to give you wise suggestions on how to continue to cheat on your husband and show him absolutely no repect. We are to give you ideas on how to hurt another woman by sleeping with her husband.

Let's see. Divorce your husband. At least then he can find a woman that really loves him. Go see a therapist about your self destructive behavior and manic/desperate desire for a man that doesn't want you anymore. Find a bit of pride somewhere inside you, and leave that man and his poor wife, alone.

Those are my wise suggestions.

RE: How Can I Regain His Interest in me again?

geminigrl — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 21:44:01 GMT

Wow... really???? I agree with Skitch... 2 thumbs.... and I suggest you come forward to your husband and tell all... Honesty is the best policy... I also think you have absolutely no right to even care or keep tabs on this man... that is his wifes job... you are just the mistress whatever on the side... and from the sounds of it you werent the first or the last... he cant be faithful to you the excitement is prob over for him... he already has a wife so that role is filled... you've served your purpose... now he's afraid you became too attached and are going to have him busted at home... which is exactly what you should do after you enlighten your own husband to your infidelity... Let him decide if he even still wants you... Good luck:))