Step Mom Vs Spoilt Step Son's Jailbait Girlfriend

Anna-Lea — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 18:04:56 GMT

I love my step son, -18, but I hate his girlfriend - 16, staying over all the time. Other than the fact that I can't stand her because I think she is so stupid that a rock would be more intelligent than her, and in the dictionary, next to the definition of "stupid bimbo" there is a full-page picture of her, she imposes her presence in my home so much that I feel unable to function as normal in my own home. I know that it is only me that has this problem - my husband doesn't feel as I do and calls me childish, which hurts me very much, but I don't know what else to do about my feelings. I am allowing her presence to dispupt my life, I shut myself in my room because I can't stand her so much! My partner will not support me and doesn't want to know about it. If any one knows of a solution or any way that I can change or better cope with my feelings, can you please let me know, because I am very unhappy, and I want to stop thinking of moving out. I love my family but no-one will compromise, so I am needing the advice of stangers, which right now I welcome very much.

RE: Step Mom Vs Spoilt Step Son's Jailbait Girlfriend

tiredofit — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 18:30:34 GMT

sorry about your problem....i'm going to be blunt with you here. it is your house, stand up and make the rules! since your stepson lives there as well, perhaps you could allow her to come over to visit...but only when you say. if your husband don't agree with you then he doesn't respect you and doesn't deserve you. you may have to make him choose between you and the bimbo. but be very careful not to make him choose between you and his son.

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Anna-Lea — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 18:51:30 GMT

Thank you tiredofit for your answer. I no longer feel so alone. I would never want my husband to choose me over his son and have asked for a compromise regarding when or how often she can stay, althogh he feels that he can't deny his son of anything epescially his girlfriend. I relise that it's gonna take alot of "give" as oppose to 'take' on my part but this is where I mainly want to draw the line. I would like to think that my husband respects me but where this person or 'subject' is concerned, I am frequently ignored. But thanks to your perspective, I feel I know in which direction I can go with this. I will continuously stand up for myself, because if my husband was in my shoes, I would support although I would be fair - to him and my step-son, by allowing HER to visit/stay once on weeknights, twice on my step sons holiday period. I have a 7 year old son also whom I want to set a good example by. This is his home too, this is our family home - not a playground bordello for my stepson and his almost-under-age-over-imposing-stupid-bimbo-girlfriend.