http://yedda.com/questions/Want_freedom_obsessive_thoughts_1861199677916/?src=rss:qb:qbsWant freedom from obsessive thoughts of a girl who rejects meen-ushttp://static1.yeddacdn.com/images/Logo132X46_rmt9c1d22d.jpghttp://yedda.com/questions/Want_freedom_obsessive_thoughts_1861199677916/?src=rss:qb:qbsWant freedom from obsessive thoughts of a girl who rejects mehttp://yedda.com/questions/Want_freedom_obsessive_thoughts_1861199677916/?src=rss:qb:qbi<p><strong>Problem</strong>: I apparently am obsessed with thoughts of a particular girl and just cant stop thinking of her when I know she has no attraction to me. Want to be free of her thoughts.</p> <p><strong>Background</strong>: In late thirties man. Born with severe hearing impairment. Married at 25 age, wife desserted & divorced at 31 age. Required psychiatric help to overcome another female rejection at age of 35.</p> <p><strong>Present situation</strong>: Met the present girl in question in 2007, felt attracted in 2008 (after an year). She apparently became friendly and then walked out. Gathered from her friends that she has no attractions for me. It is now almost an year. Spent few months going to office after walkout. Last 5 months left the office and don't see or talk to her. Bad that cant find any other girl to divert my attention.</p> <p><strong>Help Needed</strong>: How to avoid her thoughts. Why I still live in hope that she probably likes me? As such on account of being disabled and getting old alone with no one is depressing and then the feel of self dislike because of her rejection makes me feel more miserable. SKYMAN</p>SkymanSkyman38questionSat, 02 May 2009 14:43:57 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/Want_freedom_obsessive_thoughts_1861199677916/?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/Want_freedom_obsessive_thoughts_1861199677916/think_therapy_soon_possible_735159157430906?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>I think you should get back into therapy as soon as possible.</p><p/> The solution is not to "find any other girl to divert (your) attention," the solution is in liking and being happy with yourself!<p/> ~ If you are unhappy with yourself, then you cannot possibly be happy with someone else.<p/> ~ You cannot use others as a substitute or a distraction.<p/> ~ Although it is possible for a relationship to start out well, it will ultimately fail because you are not whole.<p/> ~ You cannot expect a woman to fill the hole; she will sense that there is something wrong and leave (which is exactly what keeps happening to you).<p/> Take the time to find out the underlying causes of your misery and address them. If you can do that, then there's a strong likelihood your next relationship will end up to be just what you're looking for.jkgrandmajkgrandmafemale54answer4.0Sat, 02 May 2009 17:12:03 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/Want_freedom_obsessive_thoughts_1861199677916/think_therapy_soon_possible_735159157430906?src=rss:qb:qbi