I am a female who lives in the midwest. I have ...

Goldie42 — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 21:13:13 GMT

I am a female who lives in the midwest. I have worked for and lived with a so called good friend who has in the past 16 years been very, very controlling and abusive enough for me to have to phone the police on one occassion. Due to our work and business, we worked through that with couseling and continued working very hard running two companies contracted with very large companies all Americans would know of, they are transportation corporations. As of 4/01/06 we had been underbid on our contract's and since then I have had a large lawsuit in excess of 90,000.00 from 2004. My male friend, whom I still live with, put all his eggs in one basket and took out a large loan, (I was suprised/shocked that it was the same amount as my lawsuit). I asked why he was taking out a large loan, we didn't need the money he didn't want me to get involved with what he was doing, it was for stocks, I was only to get information on good companies and read up on many good ones to invest in. I gave him some great ones which still are good yet not worth as much as two years ago. I notified him last November that I will be dismissing my lawsuit case and I will have one year left to change my mind to sue these two drs. He smiled from ear to ear. I was tired of all the work I had to do and all the appointments for doctors and all the bills I had paid. It was like a huge relief for me, enough punishment for the two doctors, they can keep their practice, I'm not a mean person but they very well did make a huge/large life threatening error. After about 5 months my partner, male friend and I both were still unemployed yet I continued to still have to have surgery several times and had many follow up doctor appt's. I was going for a job interview and a woman with diabete's, slammed into my drivers side of my car after flying through a red light and missing the 3 cars in front of me. She got me good too, she kept going and finally I found out the police were chasing her prior to her hitting me. I went through all I had to Physical therapy, again, surgery for my neck and back and each time I am away from home, (It's a very large house), everything I have is gone through, some things come up missing and I asked my friend if he has seen anything that was missing or if he's been upstairs? (It's a full 2 bedroom 1 full bath, kitchen, living room and closets where my kids keep their valuables, I keep my valuables and when they visit they stay upstairs. My mate/friend had been going back and forth to the VA hospital for doctor appointments, he said to me that he wanted to get disability. He is a veteran, I don't notice anything physically wrong with him but he states he does not want to work, he wants to retire. He was getting more and more upset at me and telling me to get an attorney to sue the two doctors in which I dismissed the lawsuit on. He wanted the money badly. He continued to bug me and yell at me to call more and more attorney's and ge the best. I really saw greed in him and noticed him going backwards in life, he was starting to smoke pot again, drink again, take my pain medicine and his medicine with it and I continued to find my things missing. I know that he has a huge problem with his temper and I didn't want him to touch me, I have to ask him things at the right time or in the right way and watch his actions to see if he is telling me the truth or lying. He enjoys moving my things around and telling me I misplaced something. LOL! I know better, good try, I've been memorizing everything due to his games for two years! I had my doctor cut my medicine back to less, I can deal with pain and be aware, it's better for me. I don't want to see myself going down the road he's on. I'm not simply missing one box or two boxes of winter clothes and some autographed baseball's, yes I enjoy baseball too. I have about 5 large boxes or 6 filled with very expensive wool sweaters, glove's boots and all winter things for my car, - how in the heck can all this be hidden? He won't look me in the eye, he will yell at the top of his lungs and tell me he did not steal them, without me saying he stole them or asking if he took them, but he also states he did not toss them either! I'm pissed, sorry about the language, I've worked my butt off for years for everything I own, all my kids cherish and keep here in Chicago, and all others have given to me as gifts, and what I've bought as some jewelry is all diamonds and some is old and antiques. My other antiques have somehow disappeared. The only person going upstairs is him to, "smoke a joint". Right??? I don't know and really now have put the entire story. I know he is upset over the money, I know he is also upset that I have a lawsuit pending from a vehichle accident which I wasn't going to sue the woman, my atty. told me I was. I feel like I'm going to quit, just keep on working my piddly job and do my very best to move out and once again start over before I turn 50 or get too old to enjoy life or get too angry or bitter or something. I hate to blame someone, yet when nothing is where I put it, where the heck is it!???? Who is telling a lie here? What is going on, anyone ever been in this position? email me....lauren.h@comcast.net

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geminigrl — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 21:59:34 GMT

Goldie> I think you could use a support group... I also think you already know whats going on around you... you just dont know how to change it... I will leave a link for you to check out a web site... his behavior sounds quite erradic and similar to an addict... take a look at the link and if it sounds familiar I suggest you find a support group close to your home... it may just be what you need :))

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ good luck:))

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Amos — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 13:33:07 GMT

My dear, a question should not answer another question but I have to ask: "Do you believe in God?" If you do then you will have to cast all your cares on him because He cares for you.

There is still a chance you can solve this problem before it get totally out of hand. You need to have hope. You will come out providing you remain positive. Barack Obama winning the presidency of the US shows us no matter the challenges we can overcome. "Yes we can".

RE: I am a female who lives in the midwest. I have ...

Amos — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 13:33:50 GMT

My dear, a question should not answer another question but I have to ask: "Do you believe in God?" If you do then you will have to cast all your cares on him because He cares for you.