http://yedda.com/questions/appreciate_depressed_mans_627071533389263/?src=rss:qb:qbsWould really appreciate a depressed man's perspective; when you seem indifferent to your loved one, is it time for us to let go or it is just the ...en-ushttp://static1.yeddacdn.com/images/Logo132X46_rmt9c1d22d.jpghttp://yedda.com/questions/appreciate_depressed_mans_627071533389263/?src=rss:qb:qbsWould really appreciate a depressed man's perspective; when you seem indifferent to your loved one, is it time for us to let go or it is just the ...http://yedda.com/questions/appreciate_depressed_mans_627071533389263/?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>i would greatly appreciate a male's perspective on this, my man seems to be drifting away from me and wanting to break up. he says i deserve better; we are different, he will always love me but we will not be happy.  he has nothing to offer me, ...... i have been very supportive during his depression (which has been going on now for over a year); and is it possible to have been too involved, trying too hard to get him motivated, to do therapy, to offer solutions so he could see the brighter side of things...  he tells me i am the forever optimist and that his life has past him by.  he is better alone, noone to disappoint, etc..  generally he had always said he didn't need space, or alone time; throughout the depression we do not live together but we were together almost every night.  we called each other, and he would isolate from everyone else, even his mother (listening to the phone ring and the answering machine picking it up; or just turning his phone off all together) but he was with me.  he began isolating from me when i started taking time to myself to spend with family and friends to recharge my batteries (because he will not leave the house except to go to work or to the store), he would be upset and would not call, email or respond to my calls or emails.  he distanced himself further and further from me and now seems "out of love" because i am refusing to allow myself to become depressed.  i love the man, i just do not know what to do?</p>binflbinflfemale38questionThu, 05 Nov 2009 22:56:17 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/appreciate_depressed_mans_627071533389263/?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/appreciate_depressed_mans_627071533389263/run_sounds_familiar_iv_dealing_let_862967183193672?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>If I was you id run' sounds to familiar iv been dealing with the same , sometimes its best for you to let em go.  depression is a hard road to travel expecially when its over in their minds.    trust me it will only get worse, he will bring you down also.   A person can only do so much. we cant make another feel, or find them an reason, shoot its hard enough just within our ownselfs,  time will just keep passing ya by , and i bet nothin ever changes . Except hopin and loneliness within yourself thats the kind of house you will be building ,   sorry  hope his life gets better for him .  it can always be so much worse We all need to realize that walking, talking and seeing .  being able to laugh . Exception s  of just living.  WHAT IS REALLY ARE REASONS OF LIVING ANYWAYS..</p>JeanneJeannefemale46answer3.0Fri, 13 Nov 2009 10:28:18 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/appreciate_depressed_mans_627071533389263/run_sounds_familiar_iv_dealing_let_862967183193672?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/appreciate_depressed_mans_627071533389263/love_challenge_change_want_help_627451466371835?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>you don't love him you love the challenge of trying to change him. if you want to help him than help yourself first. he is in his reality, and accepts himself the way he is. why don't you? if you really want to mold a being to your satisfaction, get a puppy.</p>mariemariefemale44answer3.0Tue, 17 Nov 2009 21:03:09 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/appreciate_depressed_mans_627071533389263/love_challenge_change_want_help_627451466371835?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/appreciate_depressed_mans_627071533389263/mentioned_wanted_spend_time_family_186037711761224?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>You mentioned that it started when you wanted to spend time with family and friends. Sounds to me like he wanted to keep you isolated from everyone else and keep all your attention on him, then went into pouty face mode when you didn't. That is very selfish of him and like the first poster said, 'Run away'. That kind of behavior from your partner will only keep you down. It sounds like he is trying to use reverse psychology on you by saying that you aren't right for each other to make you feel guilty and give in to his insecure needs. I bet if you told him that he was right about breaking up, he would start backpedaling and looking for another way to mess with your mind.</p> <p>Don't be his hen, Bin. <img src="http://cdn.yedda.com/scripts/tinymce3211/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif" alt="Wink" title="Wink"/></p>LukeLuke60answer3.0Tue, 17 Nov 2009 21:20:40 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/appreciate_depressed_mans_627071533389263/mentioned_wanted_spend_time_family_186037711761224?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/appreciate_depressed_mans_627071533389263/relationship_fast--run--_sake_186836549731024?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>Get out of this relationship fast--run-- for both your sake!!!~</p>bella class actbella class act62answer3.0Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:09:41 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/appreciate_depressed_mans_627071533389263/relationship_fast--run--_sake_186836549731024?src=rss:qb:qbi