http://yedda.com/questions/entertaining_food_drink_627621737385143/?src=rss:qb:qbsHaving an engagement party - want to politely ...en-ushttp://static1.yeddacdn.com/images/Logo132X46_rmt9c1d22d.jpghttp://yedda.com/questions/entertaining_food_drink_627621737385143/?src=rss:qb:qbsHaving an engagement party - want to politely ...http://yedda.com/questions/entertaining_food_drink_627621737385143/?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>Having an engagement party - want to politely request that guests BYOB and either a dessert or appetizer. </p>AndreaAndrea37questionMon, 28 Sep 2009 07:47:32 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/entertaining_food_drink_627621737385143/?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/entertaining_food_drink_627621737385143/Maybe_old_school_thought_host_party_149035017252756?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>Maybe I'm old school but I thought when you host a party you also provide the refreshments regardless of how large/small.  If you cannot afford to do, so change the menu or cancel the party.  I think it is in bad taste to ask guests to provide for themselves and are expected to give a gift too. </p> <p> </p> <p>So, just what is your question?  You don't ask one!</p>citrine1citrine1female64answer4.0Mon, 28 Sep 2009 19:09:41 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/entertaining_food_drink_627621737385143/Maybe_old_school_thought_host_party_149035017252756?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/entertaining_food_drink_627621737385143/customary_events_guests_bring_head_149934714586750?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>It's customary at most these events that guests bring some amount of $$ per head, this way they dont have to bring anything....</p> <p>However these are mostly school parties that i do, and when i invite a large crowd to the restaurant.</p> <p>The fact that its your party doesnt mean you should bear the financial burden this may become. </p> <p>Tell them to bring some $$ to the party and you will bring the refreshments.</p> <p>Between my friends and i, its an understanding. I'm not sure though how you would tell them to do so.</p>curiousOnecuriousOne24answer3.0Fri, 02 Oct 2009 22:03:04 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/entertaining_food_drink_627621737385143/customary_events_guests_bring_head_149934714586750?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/entertaining_food_drink_627621737385143/incredibly_rude_bad_manners_want_951676881711385?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>You can't. It is incredibly rude and bad manners.</p> <p>If you want to have an engagement party, then you either prepare to pay all the costs or you scale back and have the type of party you can afford.</p> <p>If you want to have a pot luck get together at which you plan to announce your engagement, then do that. But it's not a formal "engagement party."</p>jkgrandmajkgrandmafemale54answer4.0Sat, 03 Oct 2009 00:05:04 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/entertaining_food_drink_627621737385143/incredibly_rude_bad_manners_want_951676881711385?src=rss:qb:qbi