Is this normal or part of ocd ?

KV — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 08:35:48 GMT

m 19 and i have ocd...the mental one..and lately i've not been sure of anything at all in my life..im performing bad in my exams..failing courses..dont hv a gf..and i obsessing over d fact that one shud always be in a relationship..cant get this shit outta my head...im not sure who i am...so the "be urself" advice is ruled out...although in college..im making ppl laugh by saying funny things..but i juzz feel this is not me..i'm most of the times assuming situations in multiple perspectives and putting myself in 1st person,2nd person 3rd person in others shoes and like its so overwhelmingly confusing for me..i juzz cannot look at life like that..i mean no one can..stability is important..u juzz cannot live in middleverse everyday....im completely doubting my personality and imagining the future with different "self images" like wht wud life be like if i'm a "one man army guy" or a "so many friends guy" or a "with a hot gf guy"..im not sure what matters in life..is it money,relationships,love,career,friends,… ...?..i mean i overthink so much ?..i mean there r so many things in my head tht if needed to jot down i can like fill a 500 pages notebook and still be clueless and conclusion-less...what the hell is goin on ??..what shud i do..HOW SHUD I LOOK AT LIFE ?..WHAT WAY SHUD I LOOK AT LIFE ?...thnx for all replies...i mean should i live in sadness or happiness...or ignorance...its way too confusing...is this normal or like some mental problem or like due to my ocd ?

RE: Is this normal or part of ocd ?

Mrs.H0711 — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 02:57:10 GMT

Hi KV. I think you need to speak with a therapist. Professional help would really help your situation. Good luck.

RE: Is this normal or part of ocd ?

ElijahJamall — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 08:43:16 GMT

Your OCD may be contributing, but other wise, this is 100% normal. Your in collage, your discovering yourself. I went through the same thing. You don't know who you are, so you shift through all the things you could be. Looking at things, not as they occur, but through the "Middleverse" looking at them from above, and over analyzing everything. How things could have turned out if you'd done this, or that, instead of just going along the liner path of things. I was the same, if I said something that thought I shouldn't have, I'd focus on it for day's. Turning over and over in my head till something else went wrong. Now I realize that the things I worried about, where insignificant. I made people laugh, cause that's easy. People are sure to like you when your funny, I played the jokester for years, but that wasn't me either. I made friends but making them and keeping them where to different things, they liked me for something I wasn't. So I wore a facade every time I was with them. I only had one really true friend besides my sisters. I didn't know who I was, so I explored, and felt myself out, and little by little, I got to know the stranger that was me. So my advice at the end of this ramble is simply this. Try to be more honest with the people around you. Don't just play the one dimensional jokester, let them get to know you, as you get to know you, explore. Try not to think of what could be, and think about what is. But the person above has a good point, I'm just drawing from my experience, I'm probably the last person who should be giving advice. You should try to seek professional help if things don't get better.

Good luck

RE: Is this normal or part of ocd ?

LadyDoc — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 04:19:10 GMT

Young man, you aren't ocd, you are ruminating and perseverating. Your thought process also seems very loose and disorganized. Why? I have no idea. However, you do sound very anxious. But, whether you suffer from generalized anxieity disorder, I cannot even begin to hypothesize, there is too much information I don't have to even attempt to make an educated guess. First, I would get a medical exam to see if there is a metabolic imbalance causing your behavior. If you are medically clear you need to ask yourself when was the onset of your symptoms. Was there any identifiable stressor? Second, do you drink or use ilicit drugs? Have you suffered a head injury of any type? Whether you answer yes or no to these queistions, I would advise you to get a medical and psychiatric evaluation.