http://yedda.com/questions/psychology_186136215811822/?src=rss:qb:qbsMy husband wants to photograph me nude. I'm very ...en-ushttp://static1.yeddacdn.com/images/Logo132X46_rmt9c1d22d.jpghttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_186136215811822/?src=rss:qb:qbsMy husband wants to photograph me nude. I'm very ...http://yedda.com/questions/psychology_186136215811822/?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>My husband wants to photograph me nude. I'm very uncomfortable with this idea. I'm not exactly sure why I'm so against it. May be I fear somebody might see those photos. Personally I would hate to see myself nude in a photograph. My husband, however, is feeling that by not letting him photograph me nude, I'm showing my dis-trust in him. I'm in a dilemma. Even though I strongly feel against it, I was not able to convey it in an effective way to my husband. What would be the most effective way to do that for I don't want it to become a trust issue? Also, is this normal for a husband to want nude photographs of his wife? I feel photographs are such a permanent thing, that I don't want to indulge. Thanks a lot for your advice.</p>DonnaDonna29questionTue, 14 Jul 2009 23:56:01 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_186136215811822/?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_186136215811822/advice_Nude_pictures_wind_internet_735461157339809?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>My advice is don't do it. Nude pictures somehow wind up on the internet, or worse, are used against you in the future.</p> <p>Tell your husband that the idea makes you uncomfortable. If he keeps insisting he may have some mischief in mind. If he loves you he will respect your wishes.</p>LidoLidomale77answer4.0Wed, 15 Jul 2009 00:15:04 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_186136215811822/advice_Nude_pictures_wind_internet_735461157339809?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_186136215811822/Donna_married_privacy_nbsp_places_273623784110151?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>Hi Donna,<br/>Even when being married you have your privacy.  There are some places that no one is expected to enter (e,g: the toilet).... and there are some borders a partner is nor expected to cross..... You are the one to set your boders.  A husband is not supposed to make you feel uncomfortable.   Especially in nude pics.   It is NOT a matter of you trusting him or not but a matter of him respecting you or not..... If he is forcing you to do it he is not respecting you.   Please read my notes carefully and tell it to him exactly in that way.  On top of it tell him that you are afraid that somehow those pictures will reach to someone you don't want him to ssee it (e.g: a stranger, a family member, a friend....... ).   Think of it: That sould be the 1st wish..... what will be the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th wish...... and where can it end.....  There are times in one's life to say a big firm "NO".   You are in such a time. <br/>Best regards,</p> <p> </p>OronDOronDmale110answer4.0Wed, 15 Jul 2009 13:30:19 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_186136215811822/Donna_married_privacy_nbsp_places_273623784110151?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_186136215811822/trust_issue_said_idea_photographs_149531917864751?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>Like it or not, it is a trust issue. You said so yourself. It's not really the idea of the <br/> photographs being taken, as much as it is the idea that you can't trust that they'll be safeguarded the way you want them to be.</p> <p>Here are my thoughts as a man on this topic. If he wants to take nude pictures of you, what's the harm in it? There is no shortage of pornography available, so it's a <br/> compliment that he wants to have pictures of you. It could be a very intimate form of sexual play and bonding. Couples need to keep passion alive, and interest in their partners vibrant. I think it's a good thing that he's very interested in you sexually and you should encourage and indulge that interest, even if it pushes your own boundaries a little bit.</p> <p>However, some cautions:</p> <p>1. Do not use film. You'll have to get it developed and then you won't be able to control who sees them. Digital pics only!</p> <p>2. Only do it if you trust (there's that word again) that your wishes regarding the photos will be respected, not just now, but in the future, even if things go sour in <br/> your relationship. Have clearly established rules: 1. They never get posted online or emailed to anyone. 2. Decide how and where they are to be stored. 3. They never get shown to friends, or whatever else you agree on.</p> <p>3. If you are really, truly uncomfortable with it, and you have decided not to do it, that is your right. Calmly and firmly say no, without making him feel guilty or "dirty" for wanting it. If he loves you, he should respect that. It would not be fair for him to keep asking, or pressuring you once you have given him an answer. It is <br/> fair for him to check in, though, every once in a while, to see if you still feel the same.</p> <p>4. It is still, most definitely, all about trust, whether, it's about what happens to the photos afterward, or trust of him personally, in order to be completely open and intimate while having the pics taken. Think about it this way: Would you still be reluctant to do it if you knew that you could control, with absolute certainty, who, if any, could ever see the photos?</p> <p>I would suggest exploring that issue in more depth.</p> <p> </p> <p>Best of luck.</p>dekunutdekunut35answer3.0Thu, 23 Jul 2009 17:35:49 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_186136215811822/trust_issue_said_idea_photographs_149531917864751?src=rss:qb:qbi