http://yedda.com/questions/psychology_7352751075140/?src=rss:qb:qbsIts been two years since my mother died...My ...en-ushttp://static1.yeddacdn.com/images/Logo132X46_rmt9c1d22d.jpghttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_7352751075140/?src=rss:qb:qbsIts been two years since my mother died...My ...http://yedda.com/questions/psychology_7352751075140/?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>Its been two years since my mother died...My father is kind of a person who cares more about himself than about others....He used to harass my mom for small things even when she was live...HE will still fight with my elder brother and treat him as a servant..My brother is a very shy and quite person and there is no way to know what is going on in his head..His every move is being controlled by my father(even what he wears though he is 24 now).He is very afraid of my father....I study outside but feel terribly sory for what is going on with him...Thinking about all this for the past two years have made me depressed a little about and isolated from people....I rarely socialise these days and to ease the pain i sometimes go for alcohol which is becoming an addiction...I am not able to concentrate on anything...Even in sleep what i dream about is how my mother died and things related to it...Should i see some psychiatrist or take some medications to ease this...Though i am not directly affected i am very much concerned about my brother!!what should i do??</p>rohitrohitmale20questionSun, 07 Dec 2008 18:59:16 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_7352751075140/?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_7352751075140/Rohit_nbsp_Obviously_father_350713351046948?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>Rohit,</p> <p>  Obviously, your father is creating alot of problems for you and your brother.   You, I believe would do very well if you were to get into therapy.  From what you are describing, your depression is situational and would respond well to counseling.  As far as your brother is concerned, speak to him about the possibility of doing the same.  Your brother has to realize that he is a grown man, and that he has to find and live his own life, not be your father's person to control.  This can be difficult in the best of situations, but, depending upon your culture (and from your name, I am thinking you are Israeli), and the individual family dynamics, it can be even harder.</p> <p>Make the appointment to see the therapist as soon as possible.  My sense from reading your post is that you will be very successful in therapy. In the meantime, even though it is difficult, try not to medicate with alcohol.  In the long run, it can get you into more trouble than you are having now.</p> <p>Perhaps, when you are feeling better, you may want to address some of the issues that come up for you in therapy with your dad.  He definitely is creating alot of unhappiness for his children and not letting them mature into the individuals that they are meant to be.</p> <p>I will be watching your question, should you want to talk more about your situation.</p> <p>Elena</p>ElenaElenafemale54answer5.0Mon, 08 Dec 2008 06:11:22 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_7352751075140/Rohit_nbsp_Obviously_father_350713351046948?src=rss:qb:qbihttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_7352751075140/Excellent_perfect_answer_smart_273473759213859?src=rss:qb:qbi<p>Excellent / perfect answer (smart and sensetive as well), my friend Elena. I wish I could give you more than 2 thumbs up. Rohit is not an Israeli name (sounds more Indian to me). Alcohol will not help you treat your problems it will only weaken you and hold you from treating it properly. You must find a way to separate between your brother and your father.... your brother MUST start a life of his own, independent from your father and free from his influence. ---------- Best regards, </p>OronDOronDmale110answer5.0Mon, 08 Dec 2008 09:08:19 GMThttp://yedda.com/questions/psychology_7352751075140/Excellent_perfect_answer_smart_273473759213859?src=rss:qb:qbi