More than a question

Ragle — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 00:58:17 GMT

I'll start by saying that i don't know why i'm posting this question here because the answer i must find it alone. I'm a little shy and i live with a constant depressive mood. I am not a social person,i have two friends i'm talking to and one of them is a lot like me.

The thing is i like a girl at my uni, we are in the same group. I'm on year three now and i like her since the first days. But you know how it is.. time just flows. In this time i noticed some signs, for ex. in the first year i noticed she was often starring at me. I have to say she is so good looking and i didn't think that could actually meant something because i'm not even close to good looking, i'm skinny and my general look is something like: i don't care about me. But i want to change this 'me'. I think she had someone in this time but i don't think she does now. She asked me several times if i want to go out like in a group of people, not just her and me. maybe this means nothing. anyway i turned her down every time because i'm very tense around people. We talked several times about movies and music and we have some similarities. Her presence makes me feel comfortable, she has a good taste of humor.

For several weeks i'm thinking maybe i can ask her out and try to tell her what i feel for her but i'm also thinking.. hey, maybe those things meant nothing, and i'm more likely to think this way. And maybe if there was something, after i turned her down in those many occasions she may have lost her interest. if there was such thing. I want to make a change in my life but maybe this isn't the right moment to start with. What i mean is maybe i'm loosing the meaning of being with someone if i relate it with the urge to make a change. So my question will be there, should i tell her something, should i try to find someone else or should i first put my life in order ?

RE: More than a question

Mr.Jqna — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 01:21:13 GMT

Take care of you first. You can also stay in contact with her so you don’t lose touch. Even if you 2 don’t end up being a couple, you may end up being very good friends. Remember one thing though, while you are crafting a new and improved you, don’t toss out the good things about you. You may even want to talk to a professional to work on those depression issues. Good luck and don’t turn into a jerk.

RE: More than a question

Nanadee — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 07:27:54 GMT

hi ragle

its hard when your shy, but ask her if you could out with her and with friends. she asked you that . you say she is interesting... she might think the same way about you, but you don't let her show you. so give it a try you will be able to tell if she is interested in you , if so let her know you would like to be very good friends and go out " just you two ". and get to know yourselves better. give it time. but you wont know till you try. take the first step and its ok to be shy. they make good people to be around compared to " know it all people ". you sound like a very sweet person that would be a " loyal friend. " try to think of the positive things about your self. you sound like you are being respectful to people. if she just wants to be friends don't get discouraged because you sound like a real nice young man, and believe me there are alot of real nice young ladies that are looking for that quality in a person. start believing in yourself. that is good advice you got from jamesneedstoknow. i hope this helps also. i gave james a thumbs up.

my grandson is shy and in his early 20 and i think he is a great guy. you sound alot like him the way you describe your self. he doesn't date either.

i wish he would find a nic young lady, but sad to say, there not as many as there should be. he has lots of time.

hope life looks a little brighter for you. let me know how you are doing.

God bless you Nanadee

RE: More than a question

Ken Reed Sr — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 14:59:02 GMT

What are you waiting for? You will never know if you don't ask. You can't win if you don't get into the game. If you think that she kinda likes you, ask her out for coffee. This will be a short date and you can get used to being around her a little.

Just don't change yourself to fit the situation. You seem to be a decent guy, there are a lot of girls out there who are looking for that type of person.

Keep us posted on how things are going. Everyone who wrote will be cheering you on.

Ken Reed Sr